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When you grow up in a family that has survived a world war and civil wars, you definitely become more philosophical about life. How on earth was I destined to become anything normal when my whole childhood stories were about escaping poverty and war. Mum was far more stoic than dad, she kept her pain in. Dad just let it all out through story telling and dark humour. As I got older,… Read More

Have you ever taken the time to mock yourself and see the funny side of all your seriousness? Being offended or being surprised that others would dare mock you is both naive and sad. Naïve, because we’re not that grand in the world scheme of things. Sad, because we miss an opportunity to see ourselves in light of another person’s landscape. When we’re the but end of someone’s joke, we’ve achieved an… Read More

How can we possibly live with the weight of our own failures? Is it even possible to start a fresh life when we carry so much baggage, especially the older we get? I had the privilege of baptising a man at a local beach early one morning. When preparing for the baptism, it was important for me to convey a simple and profound message to this man of miraculous hope. HOPE BEYOND… Read More

The moment forgiveness is released into the air, all sorts of transformations take place. Forgiveness is a living thing, it’s not a thought process or a program. Just because people coexist, it doesn’t imply forgiveness has taken place. Some of the most angry and bitter people can coexist for years harbouring bitterness and resentment. Being civil isn’t forgiveness, being civil externally prevents wars, but civility without forgiveness cannot bring about harmony. Wether… Read More

One of my favourite quotes about developing healthy human relation insights comes from Stephen Covey, author of 7 Habits of highly effective people ~ ‘Seek first to understand then to be understood’ The idea of transparency and honesty is only half the equation when it comes to building strong relationships. Wether it’s family matters, building communities or the top end of town business deals, understanding the other person is not the first… Read More

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