CONNECTING PEOPLE TO POSSIBILITIES
The makings of reproductive influencers
When we talk about thinking outside the box; rarely is the concept adopted because we have to risk what we think we already know. There is nothing more comforting than knowing Knowing feels like an accomplishment Knowing how to add up numbers, write a sentence, putting a recipe together... the simple delight in just knowing… Continue reading Making people think outside the box is not as easy as it looks, 3 reasons why
The idea that a CEO, MD or Head of a department encouraging open conversation sounds noble, to see it played out is rare, why? Unless the Leader exemplifies open conversation to create that safe space, having any open door policy is futile An example of false open door communication that I experienced in my late… Continue reading How is your open door policy going?
The world has never been more equiped to build stronger networks but human nature keeps breaking them down When we build gangs rather than create networks, the opportunities start to dwindle A gang: A group of identical or related items, is the simplest definition We start to look like each other, talk like each other,… Continue reading Your network is broken and you realise that you are part of a gang not an eco system
Imagine someone calling you the light of the world, honouring you with such a heavy burden, what would you do? Many of us struggle to accept that we carry much light at all let alone be the light of the world. 1. It’s easy not to accept such an honourable calling - It allows us… Continue reading Light draws truth, hope and joy, stop hiding in the shadows
If we are to make impact in uncharted territory, we need to have the right team It’s the leaders role to know the destination, not necessarily the whole process of getting there Most leaders that seem to have all the answers stay in safe waters and rarely experience new opportunities In the industrial era we… Continue reading A leader’s job is to replace themselves, to create far reaching impact
Nature teaches us so much if we are open to it. When we look at a natural forrest, it develops an eco system where all sorts of living creatures survive as a result. Human beings are brilliant at taking elements of nature and creating controlled eco systems which produces quality fruit, we call this harvesting.… Continue reading Trees create other trees, not just fruit. Many leaders fall short of reproducing other leaders and only produce fruit, why?
It’s interesting how the ancient word Evangelist has been adopted by technology companies with a simple definition of what a Technology Evangelist does ‘A technology evangelist is a person who builds a critical mass of support for a given technology, and then establishes it as a technical standard in a market that is subject to… Continue reading 3 easy steps, how to become a professional business Evangelist?
Even the beggar will get a return on their time invested on the streets, asking for a handout, why wouldn’t you succeed if you have a solution for someone. I’ve marvelled at the consistency of beggars as they systematically ask individuals for money. To them it’s a numbers game and they do it because it… Continue reading Be consistent in what you offer even if no one acknowledges you today, why?
Humans are brilliantly resilient, but when we no longer believe, the death cycle starts. Believe in what? Believe that people can change, including us Believe in unexpected opportunities Believe we can reinvent ourselves again and again Believe that life’s mysteries are beyond comprehension and we are part of a greater purpose Believe in unconditional love… Continue reading Unbelief is a killer enemy, why?
I attended a women’s lunch recently held in a vineyard, surrounded by tall trees, grass and grapevines. The ladies were dressed beautifully with soft music playing in the background by a couple of young ladies. The three female speakers of the day shared personal aspects of their life very openly Each speaker started and ended… Continue reading Men need to cry more, they may just live longer
We are not meant to know and do everything A great sign of leadership maturity and humility is knowing our own limitations Creating that magic team starts by reaching out for others to help How do we get the help needed 1. Leaders create a worthwhile vision that draws curiosity If people are to get… Continue reading Leaders ask for help, no matter how accomplished they are
Over 2.45 Billion users log onto Facebook monthly, to travel the digital highway. With all that activity, very few go outside their tribe. Wether it’s Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Google+, Twitter, Snapchat, the average connections are between 90 and 240 These figures don’t vary much to the average weekly or monthly attendance of a church, mosque… Continue reading Digital Highways don’t stop tribalism, they just help find tribal members
Possessive, insecure, fearful, resentful, angry, an overwhelming sense of potential loss of relationship or possession Jealousy reveals itself in the most unusual settings and it doesn’t discriminate against kin or foe Jealousy can attack the closest of friends just as much and perhaps more so than an associate or neighbour 1. Jealousy starts with a… Continue reading Beware of the green eyed monster; jealousy destroys best friends
The words we speak or don’t speak are not static, they carry life or death With our words we can disarm a volatile situation or inflame it 1. Practice speaking life in every situation, why? Our words and our tone reveal what’s going on in our heart They reveal our confidence, fears, prejudice, likes, dislikes… Continue reading Speak life into every situation
When the teachers thought you were the least likely to succeed When you were overlooked for that promotion or job opportunity When you’ve failed at numerous attempts to start a lucrative business No one has ever heard of you All the above would be considered as having the underdog status moving forward 1. Being a… Continue reading 3 opportunities we have as underdogs
Luck’s simplest definition : success or failure apparently brought by chance rather than through one's own actions. Wether we want to call it luck, favour or blessing, the very idea that we can invoke an outcome not directly connected to a specific scientific act of cause and effect is exciting. Most of humanity believes in… Continue reading 3 ways to attract good luck
It’s difficult to find the person who coined this phrase, ‘Lead, follow or get out of the way’. I’ll guarantee they were decisive and not double minded. Lead If we ever take the lead position, be prepared for the following - People will challenge us and rightly so. Everyone has different expectations of leaders. We… Continue reading Lead, Follow or get out of the way
Discipline is definitely a key to progress, until our disciplines lock us up We all know those people who won’t break routine. Their routine has become their good luck charm and with that comes mental superstition. - It was a particular routine that helped us in the past and we fear to let it go… Continue reading Stop working harder, just change the routine
Anger is one of those emotions that needs to be preserved and used with absolute discretion 1. No one loses the temper, they simply direct it When someone tells you they lost their temper and couldn’t help lashing out, be weary of that person, don’t be sympathetic Like most emotions, anger is one that can… Continue reading 3 reasons why dealing with anger is better than lashing out
I remember decades ago, hearing a great message on the art of leadership. The key comment that stood out to me as a young man ‘Stick around long enough and watch those around you fall by the wayside’ 1. Leaders stick around long enough It’s amazing to see people rise because they have staying power… Continue reading 2 rules of leadership, longevity is our defence, fruit is our reward
Restoring order, harmony, peace, mental wellbeing in a person or society is greatly connected to nature. Wether you are a practicing Christian like me or any other faith or even an atheist, we all have connection to the redeeming qualities of creation Recently I did a bush walk with a friend of mine who talked… Continue reading God is a GREENY, how blind are we not to see
Leadership Development is an unseen process. We’ve heard the phrase ‘Fake it till you make it’ which is another way of admitting, not everything you see is authentic. 1. Who wants to admit that they don’t know what they are doing 2. Who wants to admit that they don’t have the motivation to keep going… Continue reading Why do leaders seasonly feel alone?
There is a huge difference between training others and using them A Position Hog? They use their position to get their way and leave little room for others to grow 1. No one is ever good enough to do their job 2. They always come to the rescue and put out the fires (they discretely… Continue reading Position Hogs miss the opportunity to train, why?
I grew up in family businesses, from a bakery, fast foods and restaurants. They all revolved around repetitive processes. Each person was appointed to their own unique pole position to make the most out of human and product resources. I started at 12 years of age working in my uncles fish & chip shop answering… Continue reading Efficient Systems & Glorious Speed is a form of art, from the kitchen to the racetrack
A futurist in the simplest way, sees the future based on conditions applied. Some conditions may be intervened, some may have to be accepted. A futurist lives in the thousand shades of grey. They make those who live in the past and those who love the present very nervous. Futurists are mocked for speaking about… Continue reading Futurists aren’t modern day witches, they can’t help what they see
It’s the most painful experiences that enlighten the most beautiful hearts When we are living the high life, it’s often difficult to recognise authentic relationships, opportunities and our capacity How could anything positive come out of hitting rock bottom? 1. We truly find out who our loved ones are When the honey moon is over… Continue reading 3 positives to hitting rock bottom
Life begins at fifty 1. With the benefit of hindsight, we realise how foolish we were to worry about so many things that didn’t matter Navigating through all the empty words, broken promises and unrealistic expectations, we become less obsessed the older we get (I acknowledge some are late bloomers and may experience this in… Continue reading Getting older is cool, 3 reasons why?
No matter how much we try to mind our own business, there will always be someone that will meddle with our business, why? I can’t even begin to tell you how many people advise me on how to do my job. Most of them wouldn’t even know what it’s like walking in my footsteps yet… Continue reading 3 ways to prevent cruel associates from throwing us under a bus, our reputation is everything
The term ‘thou shalt not covet’ was carved in stone thousands of years ago for a reason. It was never meant to be replaced by another law. It was not open for discussion or interpretation. Anyone’s opinion to justify is null and void. Unlike a fantasy which is way beyond most people’s reach like having… Continue reading Why COVETING our neighbours possessions is fatal to personal development
Why use the term WHOLESOME Leadership & Mentoring? Before we choose the Leadership & Personal Development process, choose the person who walks the walk and talks the talk. In the ancient days, there was a clear distinction between hirelings & shepherds. A hireling was a person who was paid to do a job of looking… Continue reading 5 attributes of Wholesome Leadership & Mentoring
Those who continue to exist and live in spite of danger and hardship 1. They accept the conditions around them, they don’t accept defeat Part of the survival journey is acknowledging the lay of the land, the environment we find our selves in. The moment we see things as they are we begin to glean… Continue reading 3 common attributes of survivors
Everyone carries a certain energy about them. Some are so negative, like a black hole in space, they dim the atmosphere in every room they walk in and... 1. People in the room feel their own energy levels vaporise and find their thinking becomes foggy 2. Trying to do work around a negative person is… Continue reading Stay positive, you don’t have to justify your optimism, 3 reasons why?
The world has gone mad with an overstimulation of info, many can’t see the Forrest for the trees. Becoming a Mentor doesn’t have to be official. It is simply helping someone on purpose along their life’s journey. 3 benefits when you become a Mentor 1. We stay fresh in our own life experience Caring for… Continue reading 3 benefits when you become a Mentor?
Society has brilliantly elevated individuals and groups to the status of the gods projecting perfection as an achievable goal. The reality is, all human beings are as fragile as a clay pot that is fashioned and forged in fire for a purpose. 1. We are all uniquely crafted 2. We all have significance 3. We… Continue reading All human beings are made of clay, that’s why we all need love
A young man that I know noticed his elderly neighbour had a broken down car and felt inspired to go out and buy her a car that day. The neighbour had no idea that young man has his own needs to take care of, raising his family and put food on their table. Giving was… Continue reading The Greedy & the Givers produce different fruit as they stretch out their hand
‘Change is inevitable, growth is optional’ ~ John Maxwell Every generation strives for a better and less burdensome life. The challenge is often mental and emotional to accept the new way of doing things. No one wants to lose time and money going from brick & mortar to digital just in case the transition doesn’t… Continue reading 3 painful transitions of the brick & mortar generation to digital age
It’s often admirable when we hear that someone is focused, they have a one track mind, they are like a dog on a bone. The idea of focus and discipline denotes qualities of character, resolve and resourcefulness. The idea of Tunnel Vision is different to focus. 1. Tunnel Vision doesn’t get the complete picture To… Continue reading 3 ways Tunnel Vision inhibits peripheral opportunities
The term RESET isn’t necessarily positive or negative. In the following blog, it’s an opportunity to free our mind and life from false expectations we have of ourselves and life’s circumstances. We have all experienced the glitch (that temporarily malfunction or fault in equipment). The first thing that we have become accustomed to is switch… Continue reading Permission to reset your life in 3 ways
You can’t escape your calling and you will never find peace until you surrender to it. Wether you’re an artist, engineer, soldier, teacher or nurse, these titles aren’t your calling. Your calling is in your DNA and you are given it in your mother’s womb. Society in all its grandeur tries to fashion you like… Continue reading DEAR YOUNG PERSON – You can’t escape your calling
The idea of virtual is not limited to the software world, it is as old as time. VIRTUAL - Something that exists in the mind and there’s an attempt to make it real Why Virtual Profiles Suck 1. We get trapped 24/7 projecting ourselves in an alternate universe where it’s hard to define where reality… Continue reading 3 Reasons Virtual Profiles Suck
Nothing worse than seeing someone step into roles they’re not suited to. It’s often the case when someone gets that promotion and they become miserable. To some, a promotion may end up being a demotion of the soul. They’ve gone from something they’re great at to the unfortunate mismatch of the square peg trying to… Continue reading Shake off the expectations and do what you’re good at
In a robotic world, it will be those with a high EQ that will take the new jobs and lead. Human beings are exhausted mentally and a new form of work is forging. Let’s briefly take a look at EQ The idea of Emotional Intelligence EQ is relatively new, coined in 1990, however the concept… Continue reading Emotionally Intelligent Leaders are not Aliens, don’t fear them but they will take over
It’s an art to keep key people motivated and on task. It’s an accomplishment when key people give a greater return than projected KPI’s Who are the Key People? 1. Key people have appetite and we need to be intuitive enough to recognise what appetite looks like 2. Key people are connectors. They have their… Continue reading Key people make all the difference – Invest in them
When something is illegitimate, it is the result of the wrong decision or decisions made. Authority by definition rubs most of society the wrong way ‘The power or right to give orders, make decisions, and enforce obedience.’ When a client or boss take on the airs of authority, they immediately misplace trust and decency. They… Continue reading Resist illegitimate authority – 3 reasons why
No one had a clue how bad things would get I had just flown back to Australia from India in February 2020 going through four airports. Every authority had different ideas how to prevent the spread of the Covid virus. Transitions are inevitable but we are often trapped by a genuine lack of clear direction… Continue reading When TRANSITION comes knocking, don’t let FEAR answer the door
Absolutely it’s possible* (Conditions apply) The most dangerous politician of all is the one that is so ethical according to their own standards, procedures and policies that everyone else who doesn’t comply becomes enemy number one. The question then, how do we hold these politicians to account? By having no need for them 1. Keep… Continue reading Is it possible to be an ethical politician?
Three lies that trap us An ancient king has one wish in a difficult season “I wish I had wings like a dove, so I could fly far away and be at peace.” King David How is it even possible that the king felt so confined? 1. Don’t believe the lie that more power brings… Continue reading 3 types of lies that confine us in cages
I woke up to a dream this morning where the question was asked about true riches? The answer was given like an impression rather than a voice “Having the freedom to think for yourself” The one thing that has been positive about a world crisis is just that; societies and individuals are rethinking what’s imperative… Continue reading The New Rich Syndrome ‘Having the freedom to think for yourself’ It’s catching fast
Just before you commit to that relationship or make that big purchase and all hell breaks loose, you begin to see the wisdom of life right before you. I’ve often pondered where I’d be if I got everything I ever prayed for, until I met those that have attained my fabricated destiny. Success is not… Continue reading When setbacks are an answer to prayer
Admitting my depression or despair didn’t kill me and it wont kill you. Acknowledgement and owning our state of heart and mind is the beginning of renewal. My fast paced world was about to end. The following will illustrate how crazy I had become mentally and emotionally, racing the sun half way across the country.… Continue reading Don’t cover up your deepest wounds. It’s time to reset and live (Lesson 1 Revised) 27 days
I met a man who had all the trappings this world had to offer and he looked at me saying “Tom, I can’t even taste food any more” He lost his appetite for life. He resembled the sadness of a Lion trapped in a cage, just waiting for its meals and the day it will… Continue reading It’s time to take over the jungle, metaphorically (Lesson 90) 90 day challenge
All to often when growing an enterprise we neglect our audience and get distracted by the crowd. What’s the difference between a crowd and an audience? A crowd A crowd stands at a distance A crowd is not committed A crowd doesn’t appreciate your commitment A crowd walks away after the event An audience An… Continue reading Know your audience and don’t bow to the crowd (Lesson 89) 90 day challenge
In a world that corners itself and nothing gets done or someone just loses out, learn the art of influence and diplomacy. Wether it’s dealing with government or negotiating a business deal it’s amazing hearing stories from two different camps. Both have very persuasive arguments and neither may be correct. Life is definitely more fluid… Continue reading Hear both sides of the story and stay neutral, until? (Lesson 88) 90 day challenge
Three things are vital when preparing for the launch of a new idea. 1. Muster all the fuel you can get The first three to six months takes up so much energy to break through the atmosphere to reach the orbit of Signing up your first client Being free from the negativity of those that… Continue reading Launching an idea is costly, relaunching is a miracle (Lesson 83) 90 day challenge
Freedom comes at a cost, it’s all possible but it comes at a cost Knowing how to obey the laws of ethics rather than rules voted in by the democratic process is a start. I attended a political lunch of an upcoming candidate from an opposition party. The keynote speaker spoke with a feudal voice,… Continue reading You obey the rules, why are you still unhappy? (Lesson 82) 90 day challenge
Quiet seasons don’t necessarily mean calm seasons Quiet seasons can often stir up mixed emotions of uncertainty, being the opposite of feeling calm or tranquil. Calmness is that sense of peace 1. There’s food in the fridge 2. The bills are paid 3. Relationships are in harmony 4. There’s a general sense of well-being However,… Continue reading Calm before the storm of opportunity (Lesson 80) 90 day challenge
The problem with achieving too much of the wrong reward too early, it becomes a weight around our ankles, hindering our potential. Potential ~ having or showing the capacity to develop into something in the future. Life’s mountain is way more majestic than the plateau we find our selves settling in for. When mentoring young… Continue reading Starting over won’t kill you, it will renew you, How? (Lesson 77) 90 day challenge
Striving for perfect moments While perfection is just an illusion, human beings strive for that moment where everything aligns. It’s in our DNA to achieve, progress and renew A young couple look for meaning in a relationship. They court one another and plan for that perfect wedding that lasts for just a moment. A baby… Continue reading Perfection is just for a moment, chase it anyway (Lesson 76) 90 day challenge
‘Stick to your knitting’ a term I heard dozens of times by an old boss, when he felt we were straying from our core strengths. Anyone that has grown up with a mother that knitted understands the tediousness of knitting. One stitch at a time 1. Discipline to stick to our core strengths and objectives… Continue reading Stick to your knitting – What is your natural gift? (Lesson 74) 90 day challenge
Unhealthy habits begin when we get stifled and we look for immediate gratification Long term goals can get exhausting, like planning for your retirement at 30 years of age; or your job and relationships are just a repeat unconscious actions. Unhealthy habits form to replace nature’s endorphins. Boredom & Rockbottom have two things in common… Continue reading Boredom & Rockbottom have two things in common (Lesson 72) 90 day challenge
An Ancient Eastern Proverb - It is useless for you to work so hard from early morning until late at night, anxiously working for food to eat; for God gives rest to his loved ones. Resting body, mind & emotions opens up the world to new experiences Even nature reveals in our early development the… Continue reading Your mind, body and emotions need some rest from worry, not activity (Lesson 5) 27 days
The success of one generation is often the hinderance of the next because they won’t hand over the wheel. I’ve come across way to many successful individuals that struggle to pass on their entrepreneurial spirit at the right time. They hold on to their success like it’s the end of the road. We are all… Continue reading Hand over the wheel of success to the next generation, 3 reasons why? (Lesson 6 Revised) 27 days
Everyone needs personal space to flourish, so to be left alone from time to time is not all bad. People that end up feeling lonely often place a hedge around their lives which repels sincere companionship. Most toxic relationships are often a result of individuals not knowing the difference between being alone and becoming lonely.… Continue reading Being alone and being lonely aren’t the same (Lesson 7 Revised) 27 days
Some people remind me of balloons, you can pump them up easily but they deflate just as easy, why? We’ve been trapped by marketing trends and the expectations of others, rather than run our own race. Get rid of doing anything seasonal, break every rule and get motivated and I’ll tell you why? Motivation is… Continue reading Motivation is an inside job (Lesson 9 Revised) 27 days
There are storms that strengthen our resolve and there are storms that take us on a different course. It’s hard to recognise which storms do what until the right storm comes that changes our course forever. This is the storm that feels like you are completely off course, why? 1. You’ve tried everything that has… Continue reading Storms that take us on a different course (Lesson 11 Revised) 27 days
From the kindergarten playground to the grave, politics is a way of life. Most people are happy to mind their own business until their business gets disrupted. This is when we see the festering wounds come out. Political machines are feudal by nature and can turn on us at any given time. How do we… Continue reading Politics – The debate of governance, property and rule (Lesson 13 Revised) 27 days
Independent thinking to create cohesion and freedom The term Maverick is said to derive from a Sam Maverick (1803-1870), a prominent Texan landowner who despite intense pressure from other cattle farmers, steadfastly refused to brand his cattle and allowed them to freely roam, instead of being penned within fields. In the new age of independence… Continue reading Be a MAVERICK with a SOCIAL CONSCIENCE (Lesson 21 Revised) 27 days
Proverb ‘You are only as strong as your weakest link’ Wether it’s a toxic relationship or an unhealthy habit, it’s the weak links that keep us from achieving our end goal. 1. Weak links render the whole chain weak Weak links emotionally blackmail the chain to its lowest denominator, or worse, make the whole chain… Continue reading 3 Reasons the weakest link needs removing (Lesson 22 Revised) 27 days
A bully knows exactly what they are doing and their endgame is control. The following three attributes of a Bully can be easily avoided if you know their motive. 1. They are dismissive in their manner When encountering a bully for the first time, you’ll find them dismissive. They instantly make you feel unworthy. Wether… Continue reading Recognise the 3 ways bullies use to control you (Lesson 23 Revised) 27 days
1. Influencers engage the heart not just the mind History records some of the greatest influencers talked in story form or parables a. Story telling opens up the imagination b. Story telling draws in the soul to make independent evaluation of the truth being revealed c. Story telling has an ability separate the light observer… Continue reading 3 Reasons Influencers share stories, not just facts (Lesson 25 Revised) 27 days
When setting on a new path, it’s wise to remember where you’ve come from. An old Italian Business Man in his nineties shared with a board room full of young people. He started with a quote ‘If you don’t know where you’ve come from, you won’t know where you’re going’ History has its place in… Continue reading TWO TYPES OF PEOPLE THAT DESTROY PROGRESS (Lesson 28) 90 day challenge
Wether it’s a Business Chamber, Sports Association, Tree Hugging Society or Faith Group, there is an art to creating a sustainable community. In September 2019, I was asked to be the CEO of a business chamber that has been in existence since 1968. With a strong history of business and political punch, the Chamber had… Continue reading 3 Steps To Community Sustainability (Lesson 30) 90 day challenge
Five motivation killers and one motivation rule to extinguish them! 1. The criticism of those that have not invested in you. 2. Work that is meaningless. 3. Answering to those that have not achieved what you have. 4. Having to participate in an atmosphere where individuals bring their toxic spirit in. 5. The greatest motivation… Continue reading 5 MOTIVATION KILLERS (Lesson 31) 90 day challenge
Ancient Proverb 'All roads lead to Rome' or all paths lead to the same goal.The sickest souls on earth are those who fight against their conscience in order to gain something that is not real. The modern digital roads take us to places Ancient Rome couldn't even conceive. Centuries later when the Medieval Templar launched… Continue reading HIGHWAY TO THE HOLY GRAIL (Lesson 32) 90 day challenge
The delusion that being busy is being effective. Wether it’s a world pandemic or personal crisis, we all end up against the wall of self reflection. More often than not we don’t like what we see, blaming the crisis or circumstances for our discontent. The only place the sun shines more than any place on… Continue reading TOO MUCH ACTIVITY BLOCKS FLOW (Lesson 33) 90 day challenge
If your message solves problems, they’ll come looking for you in the wilderness. He would’ve been in his late twenties to thirty years of age and he unlocked so many minds. He was in the desert declaring the greatest message to come to earth. “Change the way you think, we are about to experience the… Continue reading MAD MAN OR FREEMAN (Lesson 35) 90 day challenge
Here’s a couple of books from my ever dwindling library. (I can’t think of how many books I’ve given away) Having strong republican friends and knowing the Clinton's are quite polarising, I’ve always been encouraged to disdain Hillary Clinton, so I bought her book and let her speak for herself. After reading her book, I… Continue reading SEEK TO UNDERSTAND SO YOU CAN BE UNDERSTOOD (Lesson 36) 90 day challenge
In the space of a few short weeks, individuals are drawn down to their last pennies, some companies are pushed to the wall, faith groups and other community enterprises such as sports clubs and entertainment have been decimated. Remember the golden rule, those who hold the gold, make the rules. Meanwhile our government’s footing has… Continue reading THOSE WHO HOLD THE GOLD MAKE THE RULES (Lesson 73) 90 day challenge
