I’m confident that there isn’t a person on earth that believes they are perfect; then why are we so hard on ourselves?
1. We can’t be in control of what is marked as a flaw in the worlds eyes
Blemishes, imperfections and errors aren’t the problem
The problem is, we want to be in control of the blemishes, imperfections and errors that the world knows about
It’s our way of showing the world that we relate, we are humble to a degree, but it must be on our terms
We deceive ourselves when we believe that the world views us the same way as we view ourselves, flaws and all
2. Flaws are what bring out the best in us
It’s the failure that helps us improve
Growth & flaws are part and parcel of discovering things about our limitations, expectations and possibilities
When we see an ugly side to our character it’s an opportunity to make things good
We may believe we don’t have a bad temper until our temper is tested
We may believe we are naturally kind until circumstances unveil a judgmental side we didn’t believe existed in us
Flaws that get discovered are either dealt with or we go deeper into self denial
3. Flaws humanise us, don’t miss the opportunity
Having the capacity to see how fractured we all are is one of the greatest bonds in humanity
Having the capacity to laugh at our flaws helps us to resist covering them up
It’s easy to project a flawless life in the virtual world and around shallow relationships, this is clearly a missed opportunity to grow
Photoshopping everything about ourselves is the surest way to misery
One of the most profound illustrations in history that helps heal a flawed life
A woman was judged by her city’s officials for her flaws in an ancient setting. The law condemned her to death
Jesus speaks to the law makers and enforcers, “Let the one that has no flaws be the first to cast a stone in enforcing judgment”
Not one could cast a stone. Jesus created stellar check mate move. The law enforcers walked away not willing to reveal their flawed lives in a public setting like they did to this woman. They preferred hiding in their flawed state
Jesus turned to the woman and asked her “Who is judging you now?”
Her response “No one”
Jesus then sets her free to think and re-evaluate how she chooses to live without judgement
Flaws aren’t the problem, they are an opportunity
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