I pray you go through life with minimal regrets.
I’ve thought of my ten standout life regrets and in many ways they have defined me. They have forged convictions and attitudes of what seems an unshakable resolve, I walk through life on purpose and I will not be deterred.
I’ve been very fortunate to achieve everything I’ve imagined (few could claim such ambition) and I’m confident I’ll continue to achieve my ongoing crazy dreams. Paradoxically, my life achievements have not been the greatest source of life satisfaction. I believe it’s the overcoming of self and learning from my regrets.
Have I arrived? God no!
There is one thing I continue to do as I’m learning to be kinder to myself. I look for diamonds in the rough, starting with my family, extending it also to whosoever as I practice one of the oldest truths that brings long lasting meaning. ‘Loving my neighbour’
My 10 life regrets
1. Not giving my wife the wedding she deserved (I can’t begin to explain, but I got everything I wanted, to my shame)
2. Not respecting my wife enough in at least the first decade of our marriage (I’m getting there 32 years later)
3. Not being there for my sons birth (What was I thinking being 3000km away)
4. Not leaving what became a toxic religious cult that I was in for twenty one years, I should have left at least five years before I did. (Addicted to false success until good conscience gave way)
5. Not letting my kids know how much I struggled with the black dog on the inside and by default not give them permission to do the same (I thought I was meant to look strong at all times, impossible)
6. Not harness and reign in my early years of ambition to succeed at all cost (the end doesn’t always justify the means)
7. Not obeying my conscience as much as I should have (I’m getting better at obeying the older I get, God gives me no options)
8. Not appreciating enough how fortunate I am despite my dumb decisions (I’m definitely waking up to this big time)
9. Not recognising the value of honouring my mother and father earlier (I made up for it with my mother, thank God)
10. Not investing in google (Humour and sarcasm, I’ve always kept sharp)
I pray you go through life with minimal regrets and with the regrets you do have that they transform you into a wholesome loving person.